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#NoExcuse for Domestic Abuse

Always need to tell your partner where you are? Not allowed to see your friends? Are you often left feeling anxious or scared? These can be signs of domestic abuse. Abuse is not normal and there is never an excuse for it.

Our message is clear: The victim is never to blame - there is no excuse for domestic abuse.

Scroll through our photo gallery to see some of the myths around domestic abuse. Do you recognise any?

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Signs of abuse

Many people who've experienced domestic abuse say they didn't recognise they were in an abusive relationship until they were out of it. This is often because the abuse may start with controlling behaviour such as frequently checking where you are or psychological abuse, saying or doing things that make you less confident. This can get worse over time and may become physical.

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Realising you or someone you care about is in an abusive relationship is the first step to ending it. Find out more about the signs of domestic abuse and the support available.

If you're an abuser

It takes courage to admit that you are abusing your partner. But if you really want to change, you can. If you are abusing your partner you've learned to use violence and abuse to control them. But what you've learnt can be unlearnt.

Counselling of any kind will not work unless you accept the fact that abusive behaviour is about control. Without change, things will most likely get worse with time. And if you don't change, criminal prosecution and imprisonment may well be your fate. Find out what steps you can take to change and the help available.

thisisnotanexcuse.org

We've launched a new website with advice and support if you, or someone you know, is experiencing domestic abuse.

Find a list of facts surrounding domestic abuse.

Visit the new website here - www.thisisnotanexcuse.org

Join the conversation

Follow us on Twitter to hear more about our campaign and join the conversation using the hashtag #NoExcuse. You can also find us on Facebook.

We recently ran a tweetathon to highlight reports of domestic abuse we receive. If you missed it, visit our Storify page to read tweets and messages from the evening.

Report abuse

We take all reports of domestic abuse seriously.

If you are a victim of domestic abuse, or know someone who is, you can call us on 101 or contact us online. If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, always call 999.

To find out about local help and services available call the Domestic Abuse Freephone Service on 0800 69 49 999 or visit thisisnotanexcuse.org

thisisnotanexcuse.org is part of the 'No Excuse' campaign to help tackle domestic abuse across Avon and Somerset. The campaign was initiated by Safer Bristol, supported by the Police and Crime Commissioner (PCC), and has been launched across Avon and Somerset by police and PCC, with help from councils and the NHS.