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Questions about male rape?

It's estimated that 12,000 men in England and Wales are raped each year. Less than 1 in 10 will report it.

We’re running a campaign to raise awareness and increase confidence in reporting rape and serious sexual assault, with the launch of a video aimed at reaching victims who are men. Watch the video here.

As part of the campaign, we are looking to highlight the message that for both men and women, being pressured or forced to have sex or take part in sexual activity when you don’t want to is a crime. There is no excuse for rape and sexual assault and the victim is never to blame.

For help and support visit thisisnotanexcuse.org

If you’ve been raped or sexually assaulted, no matter what the circumstances or who was involved, remember that it wasn’t your fault. Please seek help.

Reporting rape or sexual assault to the police

Reporting rape or sexual assault takes a huge amount of courage. Talking about what’s happened can often be one of most difficult things those who’ve been raped or sexually assaulted have to do.

For men who are victims of rape and sexual assault, we understand there may be a number of reasons why they feel unable to contact the police.

We want to talk openly about the concerns which may be holding victims back from reporting rape and sexual assault so that more men and women feel able to seek help and support and report these crimes to us.

Some people may also have a number of questions before talking to the police. This feature looks to give answers to some of those concerns. If you have any further questions, you can always contact us. We’re here 24/7. 

There is no excuse for rape or sexual violence, the victim is never to blame. For more information, and help and support, visit this is not an excuse website

Should I report rape and serious sexual assault?

No-one can decide what’s right for you, but if you do decide to make a report, we will do everything we can to make sure you receive the best possible care and support. Your welfare is our priority and we have specially trained officers working around the clock to offer advice and support.

Experienced officers are trained to put you at ease, will be open and honest, and do their best to minimise trauma and

offer support for as long as you would like, even if you eventually decide not to support the police prosecution.

Remember, whatever the situation – whatever your relationship with the person, wherever you were or whatever you were drinking or taking – you did not ask to be raped or sexually assaulted and it wasn't your fault.

Questions about reporting rape

Q1. What will happen if I call the police - will I be taken seriously?

We take all reports of rape and sexual assault very seriously. You will be treated with respect and not judged. Above all, you will be believed.

Our specialist rape investigation team, Operation Bluestone, will do everything they can to make sure you receive the best possible care and support. Your welfare is our priority and we have specially trained officers working around the clock to offer advice and support.

Hear PC Mike Steven’s response to this question: 

Q2. Will my report be kept confidential – who will know?

Police treat all reports in the strictest of confidence. We will not disclose any information to family members or your employer, and will be discreet and sensitive when contacting you with any updates about an investigation.

If the case is heard in court, the law protects you and gives you anonymity for the rest of your life. This means that no information, such as your name, address, where you work, who your family and friends are, can be published by the media or on social media.

Hear PC Mike Steven’s response to this question:

Q3. I feel as if it’s my fault. I should have been able to stop it or fight them off.

Any man or boy can be sexually assaulted or raped, regardless of size, strength, appearance or sexual orientation.

Forcing someone to take part in sexual activity against their will is about power, control and violence. It has nothing to do with sexual desire, love or passion. All sex without consent is rape.

Remember - being pressured or forced to have sex or take part in sexual activity when you don’t want to is a crime. Whatever the situation – whatever your relationship with the person, wherever you were, whatever you were wearing or whatever you were drinking or taking – you did not ask to be raped or sexually assaulted and it wasn't your fault.

Hear PC Mike Steven’s response to this question:

Q4. All the support seems to be women who are raped by men. What services are available for me?

There are organisations that provide help and support specifically for men, as well as services which are available to both men and women.

You can find links to support agencies by visiting this is not an excuse website . A number are also listed below. 

Help & support

Survivors UK

Survivors UK support adult men who have experienced sexual violation at any time in their lives.

A London based organisation, their Helpline Webchat service is open Monday & Tuesday 6-9pm, Wednesday 12-2.30pm & 6-9pm, and Thursday 12-2.30pm.

Survivors UK website

You can also follow Survivors UK on Twitter and Facebook

The Bridge, Sexual Assault Referral Centre

The Bridge is a multi-agency support service for victims of sexual crime and provides a range of services in the one location. The Bridge aims to empower and support victims of rape and sexual assault in the Avon and Somerset area. If you are a victim, specialist workers can tell you your options and help you in making your own decisions about your care.

0117 342 6999
The Bridge website

The Bristol Sexual Health Centre

The Bristol Sexual Health Centre is located in the same building as The Bridge and offers services to men and women who have been raped or sexually assaulted

University Hospitals Bristol - Bristol Sexual Health Centre page

The Green House Bristol

Offers a specialist free counselling and psychotherapy service to men, women and children who have experienced the trauma of sexual abuse or rape at any time in their life.

0117 935 1707
The Green House website

Kinergy

Offer a confidential counselling service to men and women over the age of 16 who have experienced sexual abuse or rape. They provide a safe, accepting and supportive environment to talk about the past, enjoy the present and look forward to the future.

0117 908 7712
Kinergy website

Report it

If you have been the victim of sexual violence, or if you know of a family member or friend who has, we would prefer to speak to you on the phone (by calling us on 101) or in person. However, if contacting us online is the safest way for you to get in touch, you can complete our secure online reporting form.

Important: If the rape or sexual assault has occurred recently, you should contact us by dialling 999 to help us deal with it as urgently and effectively as possible.

For more information, visit our rape and sexual assault information page.